Richard Cole
UKCP Accredited Psychotherapist
MA Psychosynthesis Psychotherapy
Dip. Creative Couplework

Relationship Counselling

Couples Counselling - Near St Pancras KingsCross London

I work with couples who want to have an honest look at what is going on in their relationship - no matter what it is - to move towards creating the relationship they want.

There may be a particular issue you wish to sort out in your relationship or you may just want to communicate better and fight less.  Relationship counselling builds on what first attracted you to each other and what can be done to reduce hurt and conflict. You may be in a pattern where one you, “wants more and the other withdraws”.

Most couples come for relationship counselling because they want to be able to talk about things without arguing or sulking. They want to know what they can do to become closer and have more fun.

Try a session. It can be a huge relief to have some support to start  to address the issues together.

Marriage Counselling

It’s common that very soon after getting married that issues come to the surface. Marriage counselling provides the structure, support  and  advice to help you understand how you can strengthen your emotional bond and work things through. Coming for marriage counselling doesn’t mean your relationship issues are any worse that for other couples; It means that rather than suffering and making do, you are motivated to improve your relationship.

Premarital Counselling

You can make part of making a commitment to each other, discovering how to express your feelings and needs openly with your partner, in a way that you both get heard. A good marriage is based on a willingness to speak up when there is an issue, to be honest and real. In order to do this it helps to develop  the skills to express and negotiate your needs. Premarital counselling shows you how to bring more of who are into the relationship and how to be emotionally available to each other.

Infidelity, Affairs, Cheating, Break of Trust and Betrayal

I imagine if you are have recently found out about your partner’s affair, you are in shock or feel hurt. You may keep going over the details, trying to understand what happened. You may feel right now that you will never be able to trust your partner again. If you have broken your partner’s trust, I imagine you feel awful about it, maybe ashamed, maybe fearful of losing your partner and not sure how to answer their questions. These reactions are typical. Yes, affairs and cheating can be worked through if you are willing to take the time to understand what is going on underneath in your relationship. Breaks of trust indicate that something needs to be paid attention to.

Marriage and Relationship Advice

Relationship Counselling helps you understand what is going on in your relationship and to discover better ways of communicating your feelings and needs. Relationship advice and Marriage advice comes in the form of practical suggestions that guide you to communicate or understand yourself and your partner in a different way. My suggestions allow you to re-evaluate, explore and experiment, so you can  find out what works for you as a couple.

Typical Relationship Issues I Work With

• Preparing for Marriage

• A lack of quality time together

• Abusive relationships, Feeling controlled, undermined

• Anger issues, Arguing too much

• Men resentful and overwhelmed by partners needs

• Women feeling not listened to and misunderstood

• Masculine / Feminine imbalance

• Understanding cultural differences

• Gender differences

• Family expectations

• Break of Trust,Affairs - Making sense of affairs and dealing with the hurt

• Infidelity

• Women Living in Limbo

• Wedding Planning Stress

• Jealousy

• Couples Living in UK from Abroad

• How to communicate better, say what you need

• Major events impacting your relationship

• Falling out of love/ Not sure if we want to be together

• Gay and Straight, Polyamourous Relationships

• I love you, but I’m not in love with you issues

• Issues over wanting children

• Jealousy and possessiveness

• Kids left home, how do we get on with each other?

• Lack of intimacy/ passion

• Lack of personal space, boundaries

• Living arrangements

• Long distance relationships

• New parents – exhaustion, lack of nourishment, feeling disconnected

• One partner distancing, the other pursuing

• Overworking, imbalance of responsibilities,Stress and anxiety

• Relationship expectations,Wanting more romance/ passion/ sexual desire

• Sexual issues, feeling rejected, dealing with different desires

• Addictions, pornography, internet use

• Step Families – problems getting on with children and step children. Conflict of Loyalties

• Stress, anxiety

• Job affecting Relationship: NHS,Doctors, Police

• Boarding school survivor syndrome

• Secrets

Location Map

Fees

Relationship Counselling / Couples Counselling - Why it's a Good Idea

Availability:

Evening / weekday / weekend sessions

Appointments available at short notice

Contact Details :

Tel: 07789 433 234  Email:richard_cole@mac.com

My Practice Address: 6a Goldington Crescent, London. NW1 1UA

Near to Mornington Crescent and KingsCross tube stations, The City,

Angel, Islington,N1, Camden Town,NW1, Kentish Town,NW5,

Hampstead Heath and Belsize Park, NW3

Relationship Counselling Training

I qualified at the The Centre for Gender Psychology ,a specialist relationship counselling training, equivalent to those offered by Relate and  The Tavistock Centre For Couple Relationships

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