The reason men cheat isn't simply because they want sex. Men often cheat because they miss the feeling of being admired and feeling a woman positively responding to them. Usually with their partner they feel criticised and undermined. Men need to feel they can make their partner happy and to feel admired and trusted. Men are motivated by knowing 'they can get things right' for their partner.

Expectations Of Love In Relationships

A good place to start is to look at our  expectations of love.

At the start of a relationship there can be strong attraction and heady feelings of love for each other. This ‘falling in love’ is called limerence. Our romantic culture feeds the us images of “limerence” lasting forever and builds our expectation of it  is how a relationship should be.

Couple Intimacy Exercise

In my Outer Body, In My Inner Body..

This is a couple exercise to be done when you are both relaxed and in a good space to give some attention to each other. It's a structured exercise. What you learn from it you can take into your everyday commuication. 

Relationship Counselling

“Be Here Now” Exercise

This exercise below is a great technique to reconnect and soothe yourself . It does take a little practice to get the hang of it. Just try each stage for a minute at first .Accept your mind will hate this at first ! Start with low expectations and persevere.

Untangling

When you are in the thick of arguing or can’t talk issues through it can be hard to see what is going on. Relationship Counselling helps you step back and untangle the feelings.

Relationship Counselling Affairs

In this article I share my experience working as a relationship counsellor with couples where there has been a break of trust. I describe some common themes and how relationship counselling can help.