- What Makes Love Last?
- Cheating - Why do Men and Women Cheat?
- Relationship Counselling - Why it's a good idea
- Relationship Counselling - How To Communicate Better
- Change In Relationship Counselling
- All About Love
- Couple Intimacy Exercise
- Relationship Counselling - "Be here Now"
- Stuck Relationship Patterns
- Affairs and Betrayal
This article is about ‘What Makes Love Last?’ based on some of the ideas in Gottman’s book of the same name. Putting words around what makes love work helps us improve our relationships
What is Loving Attachment?
Love is a mysterious thing. What is known that a large part of making love last is to communicate with each other in a way that maintains loving attachment. How to show you care.
Communicate Better By Setting time aside For Regular Talking
Communicating better starts with having the intention to spend regular time together with your partner.
Relationship Counselling Helps You Be More Yourself
Relationship Counselling gives you the skills and experience of re-connecting to the 'Me' feeling as you communicate helping you find the clear expression of who you are. It shows you how you can be yourself while being in a connecting relationship
The reason men cheat isn't simply because they want sex. Men often cheat because they miss the feeling of being admired and feeling a woman positively responding to them. Usually with their partner they feel criticised and undermined. Men need to feel they can make their partner happy and to feel admired and trusted. Men are motivated by knowing 'they can get things right' for their partner.
Expectations Of Love In Relationships
A good place to start is to look at our expectations of love.
At the start of a relationship there can be strong attraction and heady feelings of love for each other. This ‘falling in love’ is called limerence. Our romantic culture feeds the us images of “limerence” lasting forever and builds our expectation of it is how a relationship should be.
Couple Intimacy Exercise
In my Outer Body, In My Inner Body..
This is a couple exercise to be done when you are both relaxed and in a good space to give some attention to each other. It's a structured exercise. What you learn from it you can take into your everyday commuication.
“Be Here Now” Exercise
This exercise below is a great technique to reconnect and soothe yourself . It does take a little practice to get the hang of it. Just try each stage for a minute at first .Accept your mind will hate this at first ! Start with low expectations and persevere.
Relationship Counselling Affairs
In this article I share my experience working as a relationship counsellor with couples where there has been a break of trust. I describe some common themes and how relationship counselling can help.