RELATIONSHIP COUNSELLING

Richard Cole
UKCP Accredited Psychotherapist
MA Psychosynthesis Psychotherapy
Dip. Creative Couplework

St Pancras Relationship Counselling

London - Kings Cross

I work with couples who want to have an honest look at what is going on in their relationship - no matter what it is - to move towards creating the relationship they want.

There may be a particular issue you wish to sort out in your relationship or you may just want to communicate better and fight less.  Relationship counselling builds on what first attracted you to each other and what can be done to reduce hurt and conflict. You may be in a pattern where one you, “wants more and the other withdraws”.

Most couples come for relationship counselling because they want to be able to talk about things without arguing or sulking. They want to know what they can do to become closer and have more fun.

Try a session. It can be a huge relief to have some support to start to address the issues together.

What is Relationship Counselling / Couples Counselling?

Relationship Counselling is the process of coming usually weekly or every two weeks together as a couple to a trained relationship counsellor. The role of the counsellor is to help you explore more deeply what is going on in your relationship and work with you step by step to resolve arguments, decide what you both want, and help you communicate better. A key element is looking at the communication patterns that keep you stuck in arguments and what you can do differently.

Marriage Counselling

It’s common that very soon after getting married that issues come to the surface. Marriage counselling provides the structure, support  and  advice to help you understand how you can strengthen your emotional bond and work things through. Coming for marriage counselling doesn’t mean your relationship issues are any worse that for other couples; It means that rather than suffering and making do, you are motivated to improve your relationship.

Premarital Counselling

You can make part of making a commitment to each other, discovering how to express your feelings and needs openly with your partner, in a way that you both get heard. A good marriage is based on a willingness to speak up when there is an issue, to be honest and real. In order to do this it helps to develop  the skills to express and negotiate your needs. Premarital counselling shows you how to bring more of who are into the relationship and how to be emotionally available to each other.

Infidelity, Affairs, Cheating, Break of Trust and Betrayal

I imagine if you are have recently found out about your partner’s affair, you are in shock and feel hurt. You may keep going over the details, trying to understand what happened. You may feel right now that you will never be able to trust your partner again. If you have broken your partner’s trust, I imagine you feel awful about it, maybe ashamed, maybe fearful of losing your partner and not sure how to answer their questions. These reactions are typical. Yes, affairs and cheating can be worked through if you are willing to take the time to understand what is going on underneath in your relationship. Breaks of trust indicate that something needs to be paid attention to. It's wise to get support and take some time before making any big decisions.

Relationship Advice

Relationship Counselling helps you understand what is going on in your relationship and to discover better ways of communicating your feelings and needs. Relationship advice comes in the form of practical suggestions that guide you to communicate or understand yourself and your partner in a different way. These suggestions allow you to reframe, re-evaluate, explore and experiment, so you can find out what works for you as a couple. I

Relationship Counselling London Practice

- Comparable and more affordable than Harley Street -

Fees

Fees

Approach

See Relationship Counselling - Why it's a Good Idea

Availability

Evening / weekday / weekend sessions.

Appointments available at short notice

Contact Details

Tel: 07789 433 234
Email:richard_cole@mac.com

My Practice Address

6a Goldington Crescent, London. NW1 1UA

Location Map

Near to Mornington Crescent and KingsCross tube stations, The City,

Angel, Islington,N1, Camden Town,NW1, Kentish Town,NW5,

Hampstead Heath and Belsize Park, NW3

My Training

I qualified at the The Centre for Gender Psychology ,a specialist relationship counselling training, equivalent to those offered by Relate and  The Tavistock Centre For Couple Relationships

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Typical Relationship Counselling Issues I Work With

Preparing for Marriage

Premarital Counselling - discover how to focus on each other rather than on wedding plans! preparing for marriage is often as stressful time?  Premarital Counselling can deepens your connection and understand each other's needs so you can make a commitment to each other on firm ground.

Abusive relationships, Feeling controlled, undermined

Get support to recognise abusive patterns and find out what you can do about it

Anger issues, Arguing too much

Discover how to manage your anger and express what you need constructively.

Men resentful and overwhelmed by partners needs

See Rape of The Heart Article

Women feeling misunderstood and not listened to

Discover how to express what you need and hear what your partner needs without guilt

Masculine / Feminine imbalance

Feeling undermined or ignored or misunderstood? By understanding
negative patterns you can move towards communicating in a way that
honours your differences.

Understanding cultural differences

Take the time to see how your family tribe affect your expectations in your relationship

Family expectations

Untangle the role you play and family expectations

Break of Trust,Affairs - Making sense of affairs and dealing with the hurt

See article on Affairs, Betrayal and Breaks of Trust

Infidelity

See infidelity article: Surviving an affair in your relationship

Women Living in Limbo

Make sense of being caught between security of a partner and excitement of a lover

Couples Living in UK from Abroad

Being in UK without family support or friend network puts extra pressure on a couple

How to communicate better, say what you need

see: How to communicate better

Major events impacting your relationship

Support each other as you learn how to adjust to new events

Falling out of Love"I love you, but I’m not in love with you" issues

Are you more roommates that lovers? Relationship counselling helps you make sense of your relationship and if you choose to revitalise what's important to you

Jealousy and possessiveness

Discover how to feel significant to each other and understand jealousy and possessiveness

Children leaving home, how do we get on with each other?

Find out how you can reconnect to each other.

Long distance relationships

Being away from each other ,'Love at a distance' can create problems when you meet up. 

learn how to Communicate Better

See article how to communicate better

New parents – exhaustion, lack of nourishment, feeling disconnected

Being new parents puts strain on a relationship. Relationship Counselling gives you support, space and a structure to nourish your relationship

One partner distancing, the other pursuing

This is a common relationship pattern. Take time to explore it, to you get better at meeting both your needs

Overworking, imbalance of responsibilities, stress and anxiety

Often the gap between what we hoped for from our relationship and how it is, is  filled with work to avoid feeling

Relationship expectations, wanting more romance/ passion/ sexual desire

Understand the patterns in your relationship and how to connect and communicate more of what you want.

Sexual issues, feeling rejected, dealing with different desires

Relationship counselling is safe place to talk about what is important to you with falling into arguments

Addictions, pornography, internet use

Pornography is becoming an increasing problem in relationships encouraging disconnection

Step Families – problems getting on with children and step children. Conflict of Loyalties

In Step families whatever you do someone doesn't like it. SeeStep Families Article

Stress, anxiety, Job affecting Relationship:

NHS, Doctors, Police

The stress of working in NHS or Police force can cause distancing in relationships

Boarding school survivor syndrome

See Article on Boarding School

Secrets

Secrets often hide guilt and shame. Lighten the load by talking things through